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Design Your Perfect Average Day

Sometimes I stop and think about how my life is a string of one day after another.  Each one starting with the sun rising.  Everything I have in my life right now is a result of how I lived those days.  Everything I will have will be a result of what I’m doing now.  There were some big days, some exciting days and most of them were average every day days.

In this post I’m giving away one of my most effective tools I use with my clients. As I’ve shared before, some blog posts are much like Athena being born out  of Zeus’ head. They pound at my brain until I write them down.  Others are gifts for friends.  This one is a bit of both.  I could have just given this to her offline, and yet it also demanded to be shared in a post.  I’ve shared this idea in other posts, what I’ve never shared is the list of questions.

This exercises is effective for both personal and business goals.  There is really very little distinction between the two. What blocks you in one blocks you in the other.  Clear one, the other is cleared as well.

I love this tool because it works with the way the brain naturally works.  We are designed to grow and evolve.  Our brains love to solve puzzles.  It’s what got us from living in caves to where we are today. The key is we must perceive it as a solvable puzzle, a bridgeable gap.

You’ll End Up Among The Stars…Or A Splat on the Floor of the Canyon

“Shoot for the moon! If you miss you’ll end up among the stars!”  When people create goals on this premise, those goals tend to be too different from their current reality for their brain to treat them as an actual possibility.  Imagine trying to make a running leap to make the jump from one side of the Grand Canyon to the other.  Your basic survival sense dismisses that as even a possibility because it knows better.  The goals are so big that they can only be in one’s future, across an impossible gap.  If there is a little part of you that knows this is your pattern this tool may be just the thing you need to build a bridge across that canyon.

 You’ll Still Put Your Pants On One Leg at a Time

They’ll just be higher quality pants.  Even when you are raking in millions of dollars and living in that dream house by the beach you’ll still eat breakfast everyday.  You’ll still sleep, and get dressed and meet friends for lunch and do something all day.  Whatever dream life you are living, it will still have it’s average days. Take some time to really answer the questions below to figure out, if you were living your perfect life, what your day would be like.  Do whatever works for you – journal, list, draw, cut out pictures, create a board on Pinterest, make a video, do a spreadsheet.

You May Be Closer Than You Think

Next go back through and make note of the ways you are already living your perfect average day.  This creates the first plank in the bridge between where you are and where you want to be.  For the next week as you are going through your day pay attention to and be grateful for all the ways your life already matches your dream life.  We get more of that which we pay attention to and that for which we give thanks.

Next start looking for small changes you can make to make your current average days more like your dream average day.  Now you are looking for opportunities to to lay down more planks on the bridge.  Our brains are wired to solve puzzles.  When you make the effort to consciously look for ways to close the gap the creative problem solving part of your brain gets the message that this is what we need to move forward and evolve and it gets busy finding ways to close the gap. You’ll likely start noticing new ideas popping into your head and notice yourself spotting opportunities you might have missed before. You will probably find yourself choosing not to do things that you might have done on autopilot before because some part of you knows it isn’t part of your perfect average day.

So now turn off your phone, close the Facebook tab, put out the do not disturb sign and have some fun with this.  This is not a questionnaire.  You do not need to answer each question. They are just here to get the juices flowing.  As soon as they are, go with that.

What kind of bed do you wake up in?
With whom?
What is the first thing you see?
What do you smell?
What do you hear?
What is the first thing you do?
What’s the view out the window?

What’s your bathroom like?
What is your morning routine?
What kind of soap do you use? Toothpaste?
What are your towels like?

What do you eat for breakfast?
With whom do you eat it?
What do you talk about?
Where do you eat it?

What do you do during the morning?
Where do you go?
Who are you with? What do you talk about?

What do you drive?
What can you walk to?

What do eat for lunch?
With whom? What do you talk about?

What do you do in the afternoon?
With whom? What do you talk about?

What do you eat for dinner?
Where do you eat it?
With whom do you eat it?
What do you talk about?

What do you do after dinner?

What is your house like?
What is the light like?
What do you smell?
What sounds do you hear?
What is your furniture like?
Describe your favorite place to hang out?

What is your yard or garden like?
What kinds of plants grow?
Who tends to it?
What do you smell?
What do you see?
What do you hear?
Describe your favorite place to hang out?

Who are the people you interact with regularly?
Business partners?
Spouse/partner/significant other..
Who are the people in your neighborhood?

What projects do you have that you are really excited about?

What clothes do you wear?
What do they look like?
What do they feel like?
How do you feel when you are wearing them?
What are your shoes like?
What kind of underwear do you wear?

What kind of food do you eat?
Who prepares it?

What do you do for exercise?
How else do you tend to your health and  well being?

What beauty services do you get regularly?
How do you feel?

What excites and inspires you?  Makes you leap out of bed in the morning?

How do you contribute to your community? To the world?

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