One of my all time favorite quotes is from Louise Hay. I can’t remember it word for word, basically she says. If there is one word I would remove from our language it is the word “should”. It implies one is wrong, was wrong or is about to be wrong.”
Try this exercise for just one week. Replace the word should with could. See what happens in your own mind when you find yourself thinking “I could do that” instead of “I should do that”. You will probably find yourself suddenly thinking of 3-4 other possible solutions.
Should shuts down possibilities. Could shifts the mind into problem solving mode.
Notice what happens when you use could instead of should with others. Ever notice what happens in your own mind when someone says “You should”? If you’re like most people your mind automatically starts coming up with arguments for your way. What’s your experience with, “Well you could try….”? Notice how your curiosity and consideration of the point rise to the top rather than resistance?
So you could try replacing the word should with could for one week and see what happens.